“Seller takes no liability for legal or illegal bed count, bath count, room count, modifications, repairs, structures, etc. This is a SHORT Sale and will be sold AS IS condition. NO TRESPASSING!!!! Do Not Disturb owner he has large dog and doesn’t always act rationally. Buyer to investigate. NO FHA or VA as it might not qualify for that type of financing. NO TRESPASSING: DO NOT DISTURB OCCUPANT! It is a criminal offense to trespass on this property.”—
“News broke yesterday that nude photos of Jennifer Lawrence had been “leaked” online. The truth is they were stolen. They were hacked from her personal technology. They were posted online without her consent. This is a crime. And possibly worst of all, this is something women are supposed to expect… We live in a society where women’s bodies are a commodity to be sold, whether they agree to it or not. And some of the same people who complain about the NSA or Facebook invading their personal privacy will be the same people searching and spreading around these photos.”—Large-Scale Hack Lands Stolen Nude Photos Of Jennifer Lawrence & Other Celebrities Online | The Mary Sue (via themarysue)
Charlie is at the stage where he knows the food we’re eating is often more interesting than what he eats. We feed him good stuff, but we have molars and he doesn’t, so… what we eat is usually more interesting.
I fed him a snack this afternoon- mixed veggies, some slices of string cheese, Cheerios, veggie straws. When he was finished eating, I plopped him down with some toys and went to make myself a peanut butter &apple butter sandwich.
Charlie crawled into the kitchen to pull up on my leg. So I picked him up in one arm and grabbed my sandwich with my free hand to head to the living room.
Don’t you know that little stinker started grabbing at my sandwich. Well then, I guess this is the day we try peanut butter.
We sat down, and he was so intent on grabbing my sandwich that I couldn’t situate myself to break off a piece for him. So Tom his holding the sandwich out so I can break off little pieces and hand them to him to try.
I gave him a couple small bites to try and set him on the floor. Whereupon he immediately pulled up on my knees and started eyeing my sandwich again.
So I shared. I kept feeding him bites and he kept asking for more. It’s like having a dog.
But inevitably, he got peanut butter all over his fingers, which means I now have peanut butter fingerprints all over me.
You’ve no doubt seen or heard about the latest hacking of the phones many celebrities. It’s a terrible thing and the sad thing is this will keep happening.
Take this time to make sure you have secure passwords. Passwords that you update often, and DO NOT use the same password on multiple sites.
Use a password management tool like 1Password and create as secure a password as you can on a website.
If you use a website to share or store any sensitive information, photos, documents, whatever (and even if you don’t), use two-factor authentication (TFA). It’ll take a few minutes to set up and they have apps for your iPhone or Android phones.
A quick Google search of the service name and “two factor authentication” will quickly bring up any information or instructions that service has on setting up the extra security.
The most important account is your email as it is most likely the recovery email for every service you use. If a hacker can gain access to one, they can request a password reset on any other service and gain access to that account.
This isn’t a 100% guarantee of safety and security, but it’s a big, big help.
Reblogged for great justice.
In the case of the stolen celebrity nude photos (do not even get me started), the current theory is that the email addresses were harvested from one address book, and then they were all phished, or matched with another dataset of stolen passwords somewhere.
So, obviously, be super-careful about typing in your password because an email told you to do it. Always check the URL of the page and make sure it’s absolutely correct.
But also use two-factor authentication, because that gives you a layer of protection even IF your username and password are both compromised. Even for your online gaming profiles, if available. One of the early consumer uses of 2-factor was by Blizzard Entertainment- World of Warcraft accounts with well-geared characters were worth a LOT of money on eBay and used to get hacked a lot.
Why is it that people are willing to spend $20 on a bowl of pasta with sauce that they might actually be able to replicate pretty faithfully at home, yet they balk at the notion of a white-table cloth Thai restaurant, or a tacos that cost more than $3 each? Even in a city as “cosmopolitan” as New York, restaurant openings like Tamarind Tribeca (Indian) and Lotus of Siam (Thai) always seem to elicit this knee-jerk reaction from some diners who have decided that certain countries produce food that belongs in the “cheap eats” category—and it’s not allowed out. (Side note: How often do magazine lists of “cheap eats” double as rundowns of outer-borough ethnic foods?)
Yelp, Chowhound, and other restaurant sites are littered with comments like, “$5 for dumplings?? I’ll go to Flushing, thanks!” or “When I was backpacking in India this dish cost like five cents, only an idiot would pay that much!” Yet you never see complaints about the prices at Western restaurants framed in these terms, because it’s ingrained in people’s heads that these foods are somehow “worth” more. If we’re talking foie gras or chateaubriand, fair enough. But be real: You know damn well that rigatoni sorrentino is no more expensive to produce than a plate of duck laab, so to decry a pricey version as a ripoff is disingenuous. This question of perceived value is becoming increasingly troublesome as more non-native (read: white) chefs take on “ethnic” cuisines, and suddenly it’s okay to charge $14 for shu mai because hey, the chef is ELEVATING the cuisine.
Fuck I’m walking downtown and I pass a group of guys staring at me and I think “great catcall time” but then one guy goes “you look like you could kill a man a million different ways with just your bare hands”. This. This is an acceptable comment to give a girl on the street.
Hey look, sometimes a misogynist just wants to settle in for a nice, quiet night of fantasy violence against stupid bitches, insulting other men by calling them women, and concealing their latent homosexual desires by accusing everyone else of being totally gay. Can’t a guy indulge his anxiety about his own masculinity in peace? WHY ARE YOU TAKING AWAY THEIR SAFE SPACES, FEMINAZIS?
…it’s not that there’s no room left for romance, it’s that you have to adjust your definition of what constitutes romance.
For example, when your husband sticks a can of Diet Dew in the freezer 20 minutes before you have to leave so it will be cold, and then takes daycare drop-off duty so you can microwave a hot dog for breakfast without being late for work, it’s Romantic. As. Fuck.
I maintain my position that store-bought guacamole is not a substitute for homemade guacamole, and you should never serve it to guests.
HOWEVER, I must also concede that 100-calorie pods of organic guacamole that fit in your lunchbox and are so perfectly filled/sealed without air that they don’t turn brown while waiting to be used are GENIUS.
“It should go without saying that I spent my teen years locked in that adolescent rigor mortis of trying to appear cool at all times while secretly working out what I actually liked behind closed doors in a basement lab in my brain. Mentally noting, “Oh, I don’t understand what the fuck would ever compel someone to live their life to this song,” and then downloading the band’s entire discography and hoarding it anyway.”—
“In 2008, a classified briefing note on radicalisation, prepared by MI5’s behavioural science unit, was leaked to the Guardian. It revealed that, “far from being religious zealots, a large number of those involved in terrorism do not practise their faith regularly. Many lack religious literacy and could … be regarded as religious novices.” The analysts concluded that “a well-established religious identity actually protects against violent radicalisation,” the newspaper said.”—Jihadists Buy ‘Islam for Dummies’ on Amazon | New Republic
Why yes, I am befuddled by people trumpeting their charitable activities to the world.
Because not every cause is equally visible to people not directly affected by it. Because every dread disease is not as common as cancer. And in those cases, the people depending on research funding that ought to be coming from the government but isn’t have to find a way to get enough attention and dollars swung their way so that the diseases that killed their loved ones, or that might kill them, can have new treatments developed.
Charities have always relied on the social aspect of fundraising- dinners, office canned good collections contests, donate-to-a-well-for-my-birthday campaigns, fundraising teams for 5Ks, relay races, etc. The only difference is that this one is especially successful at filling up one’s Facebook feed.
“These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’
Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.”—
In case you wanted to keep bitching about the ice bucket thing
ALS CHALLENGE VIDEOS
Hi Carolyn, As someone whose life has been profoundly affected by ALS, I was curious about your opinion on the ALS ice water bucket challenges. Care to share?
– August 19, 2014 8:43 PM Permalink
CAROLYN HAX :
Overwhelming gratitude. ALS is awful in a bunch of ways, but one crucial way is that it doesn’t affect a lot of people, but devastates the ones it does. So, what that produces as far as fund-raising is a small, haunted core of people who wonder if they will ever make enough noise to get something done. Remember, there has been progress in research as there has been with so many other things, but in actual treatment, we haven’t got much more than was available to Lou Gehrig himself. Enter the ice bucket, and we’ve got money that might, just might, make a dent. The only down side for me is that I’m back to crying at strange times as all these memories and feelings are back at the surface, but fortunately for me my inner circle is so used to that by now that I can pretty much emote erratically in peace.
“Adult female gamers have unseated boys under the age of 18 as the largest video game-playing demographic in the U.S., according to a recently published study from the Entertainment Software Association, a trade group focused the U.S. gaming industry. While men still account for the majority of the U.S. gaming population, the number of women playing games on both consoles and mobile devices is up to 48 percent, from 40 percent in 2010.”—
“But the relationship… That’s why old ladies come up to us when we’re half dead with a 6-week-old strapped to our lopsided leaky chests as we’re waddling into the drugstore at 7 am to buy more diapers and say, “Enjoy this time!” They don’t remember the jobs [the work and tasks of raising children]. They don’t know it, but what they really mean is “Enjoy this person, this relationship that you’re starting and that’s only going to get better but also more complicated, and this love that will make you hurt and make you vibrate with the rest of the universe. Your boobs will stop leaking and diapers are only for a short time and you will survive, but this relationship is your chance to be better than just yourself.””—Free but not cheap — AskMoxie.org
I am all about reading stories about parents deciding to talk to their white kids about race, and Ferguson lately.
I read somewhere that black families start talking to their children about race at age 3, but white kids never hear anything about it from their parents until age 13 or something. And so no wonder white kids are completely ill-equipped to identify structural racism when it’s staring them in the face- their parents are uncomfortable discussing it, so the only message they get is “everyone is equal,” which is true in an aspirational sense, but doesn’t reflect the reality we all live in.
And it’s not that parents who do this are bad people- they tell their children that everyone is equal because they WANT IT TO BE SO, and they want their children to participate in equality, but it perpetuates the situation where the structures and institutions that create privilege stay invisible and thus can’t be dismantled.
I want to do better. I’m not sure how I’m going to just yet, but I’m trying to get smarter about it in a hurry. Not just for Charlie’s sake, but for the sake of all the little kids he’ll be running around the neighborhood with.
“Even those of us who learn from our mistakes will also repeat some. This business of being human is basically a jalopy ride over potholes, which is why it’s so important to ride with the best people you know, wherever possible, and to make sure you take note of any particularly beautiful scenery.”—