about this photo Tom posted… Charlie is prone to bronchiolitis, which is like bronchitis, but since baby lungs are so underdeveloped it leads to a lot of wheezing and concern about blood oxygen levels. It’s the kind of thing that tends to resolve itself if the symptoms can be managed.
The usual at-home treatments weren’t so much working, so after taking him to his pediatrician yesterday and trying some stuff there that didn’t do much to immediately help, she sent us to Children’s Hospital ER, where they did a ridiculous number of additional treatments that didn’t help but did stress him the hell out (I had some serious Mama Bear words for the ER team about the “that didn’t help at all…. let’s do it again!” treatment plan)… and then admitted him so he could have supportive oxygen overnight. The doctors and nurses on the floor have been much better.
He got off the oxygen this morning around 6 and has been doing well without it. He’s still wheezing, though, but it seems like now that some of the stuff his pediatrician gave him yesterday has had some time to work, the albuterol is starting to help again. So we’re hopeful we can go home tomorrow.
In the meantime, he’s his usual charming self- sitting up to play with toys, flirting with the nurses and residents, snuggling in for naps with us. So I’m sure he’ll kick this thing’s ass in due course. Mostly he’s pissed that after all this treatment and being hooked up to all kinds of machines, his superpowers haven’t come in yet.
“Researchers at Marquette University analyzed forensic interviews with 100 young people between the ages of 3 and 17, many of whom spoke candidly about their daily experiences of sexual violence and harassment. According to sociologist Heather Hlavka, many of the young people she interviewed viewed these incidents as a normal part of life. One interview subject told researchers, “They grab you, touch your butt and try to, like, touch you in the front, and run away, but it’s okay, I mean … I never think it’s a big thing because they do it to everyone.””—
When you hear someone use the phrase “rape culture” and are tempted to roll your eyes, remember that THIS is what that phrase means.
It was also my middle school experience. You know, until I started throwing punches. Which is not how I should have had to solve it, and it didn’t solve the problem for anyone else.
And there was one kid at my (private, formerly all-girls) high school who behaved that way. I don’t know about the other girls, but the last time he put his hands on me was the time I took a deep breath, and yelled at the top of my lungs, “Jerry! Get your HAND OFF MY ASS. NOW!” In that environment, a little strategically chosen public shaming worked. But again, shouldn’t have been necessary.
Young women should not have to develop a constant posture of self-defense (for which they will then be shamed as “bitches”) to prevent this shit.
“It’s funny you should ask that. [laughs] It’s cool. When I was a kid, I really didn’t have a person I could look at, other than my dad, and be like, “Hey, I want to be that guy and fly through the window.” You couldn’t be like 7 years old and say, “Who do you want to be for Halloween?” “Shaft!”
So [laughs] you know, it’s really exciting. When I first got this role I just cried like a baby because I was like, “Wow, next Halloween, I’m gonna open the door and there’s gonna be a little kid dressed as the Falcon.” That’s the thing that always gets me. I feel like everybody deserves that. I feel like there should be a Latino superhero. Scarlett does great representation for all the other girls, but there should be a Wonder Woman movie. I don’t care if they make 20 bucks, if there’s a movie you’re gonna lose money on, make it Wonder Woman. You know what I mean, ’cause little girls deserve that. There’s so many of these little people out here doing awful things for money in the world of being famous. And little girls see that. They should have the opposite spectrum of that to look up to”—
Anthony Mackie on how it feels to be the first African-American superhero (x)
Logistics support request: Bonus Bridges in Chicago
When our trip to Chicago for CHSH went from three days to five days, it became the longest he’ll ever have been away from home. And Charlie’s pretty chill and loves having adventures, so I’m not worried about how he’ll handle it, but this effectively doubles the amount of stuff we need to carry- I think I’m going to have to bring every pair of pants we own in his current size, for example.
We’re covered for car seat, stroller, and general baby supplies (stroller rental and services that ship baby supplies to your hotel are God’s gift to traveling families).
But there are two things we’d love some local help on, if y’all could help a baby out:
- Can someone bring us a small bunch of bananas? Charlie loves bananas and I’m not sure he’ll love the packaged baby food I’m having shipped…
- Does anyone have a Boppy type pillow we can borrow? We can function without it, but when he gets tired of sitting up he likes to just sort of… topple.
Hey look! Running your social media like a freakin’ human being actually, you know, works!
That’s not a slam on Stephen Amell, whose Twitter and Facebook are legitimately delightful, and also a textbook example of how entertainment figures should run their pages. (Robert Downey Jr.’s Facebook page is also quite good.)
I just find it entertaining that in 2014 it’s still considered revelatory that acting like a person is the way for people - even celebrity people! - to run a social media presence.
If somebody is observing that a group you happen to be a member of (men, White people, Americans, whatever) does things a certain way to a group they happen to be a member of (women, people of color, developing countries, whatever), and your first reaction is to yell, “BUT WE’RE NOT ALL LIKE THAT!”*
First of all, EVERYONE KNOWS that not every single person in [group] does [behavior]. Insisting on pointing it out just derails the conversation in the name of making you, personally, feel better. And making yourself feel better at the expense of someone else trying to address a larger social problem is… part of the problem. Which basically takes you from the realm of not being like that, to being Not Like That (TM).
Secondly: You’re not like that? Great! Continue not being like that by calling out that behavior in your bros.
*I have done this myself. It’s a fairly natural reaction, but still one we all need to get a grip on.
I couldn’t read the whole thing without seeing red. Does he mention social context? And how women don’t necessarily want to be subject to casual sexual advances all the time? Or does men’s right to make casual sexual advances outweigh women’s right to be left the fuck alone?
The guy’s thesis seems to be that, since sexual repression is bad, we ladyfolk should stop whining already and understand that direct sexual propositioning is liberation, not harassment!
Because obviously, our hormone-addled ladybrains cannot tell the difference between a respectful and courteous approach and a gross, objectifying, and potentially threatening one. So it’s a good thing he’s here to explain to us that Not All Dudes Are Like That, You Know.
1. Spoken like someone who doesn’t have to put up with this shit ALL. THE. TIME.
2. Also spoken like someone who has never had to wonder if turning down a “casual sexual proposition” would result in the propositioner turning abusive, threatening, or violent. (Hint: THAT HAPPENS A LOT.)
“Good people are especially prone to bad ideas, son. But at an Internet start-up, right and wrong become murky. One gets caught up in the hoopla. That seemingly innocent strategy session leads to late-night hackathons. Those become, oh god, launch schedules and tech conferences. Before you know it—bang—you’re inside a horribly decorated start-up, Razor scootering from one cubicle to another. And there’s no turning back. All your jokes become meme-based. Some dreadlocked hacktavist named Rumble will start crashing on your couch. Finally, you’ll change your Twitter bio to simply read, “maker.” Which is when I will disown you.”—
I'm not even going to look at that Vulture article because I know it'll send me on a RAGE SPIRAL INTO THE SUN, but: I also love ("love") how the antihero worship only ever seems to extend to straight white dude characters. More female/POC antiheroes would actually be GREAT as long as they were written to avoid stereotypes, but I bet the exact same critics who agreed with that article would complain about them being angry and bitter and selfish.
YES, I CONCUR. Because $DEITY forbid we have interesting, complex female/POC characters.
“The Mets had Tuesday off before resuming the series Wednesday. Murphy remained with his family through Wednesday as he was placed on paternity leave and rejoined the Mets in time for Thursday’s afternoon game against the Nats. “You’re a major league baseball player. You can hire a nurse,” Mike Francesa reportedly said of Murphy on WFAN Radio during Wednesday’s show. “What are you gonna do, sit there and look at your wife in the hospital bed for two days?””—
I tried to explain how I feel about criticism of a ballplayer who took his collectively-bargained right to 3 crummy days of paternity leave when his child was born, but the searing-red patriarchy hate nearly shut down my synapses, y’all.
But here’s a hint: If you’re the kind of douchebag who thinks a hired nurse is an acceptable substitute for the presence of the child’s parent*, you are probably the kind of person who SHOULD be replaced by a paid professional in your home life.
Instead, let’s talk about how paternity leave was only introduced LAST SEASON, and it’s only THREE DAYS. What freaking YEAR is this?
*No disrepect to nurses, who are undoubtedly super-helpful at home postpartum. But that doesn’t make them a substitute for your life partner and co-parent, and they aren’t intended to be.
“Women who aren’t bound to the bus by economic necessity cite reliability and convenience as reasons they choose to stick with their cars. That’s more or less what men say. But women, regardless of income, tend to have an additional factor: safety. In a 2007 survey, 63 percent of New York City subway riders said they’d been harassed on a train, and 10 percent reported having been assaulted. It seems safe to assume that most of those riders were women. Among those who merely witnessed harassment or assault on public transit, 93 percent reported that the victim was female.”—